ATMA SEVA would like to introduce Phra Maha Narongrit (nick name Rit). He will be contributing to our blog on a constant basis. He is from Ba Pae village and has been in the monastic community for eight years. Phra Maha Rit has been helping with the ‘Wat Doi Saket project‘ and also has been part of our ‘monk chats‘. He has lot’s of knowledge and wisdom about Buddhism and is excited to share with everyone. Thank you very much Phra Maha Rit for all your hard work and efforts!
The Cause of Love from a Buddhist Perspective
Where does love come from?
Why could you be indifferent or remain calm when you are talking to a deadly attractive person? Why doesn’t his/her appearance romanticize you? Why does your heart say: “This person is not Mr. / Ms. Right for me.” Why is it that all you want from him/her is just being friends, why not a romantic relationship?
On the contrary, why do you have a very strong feeling towards somebody, even though he/she is not that good looking? And it is quite often that you have romantic feelings for him/her at the very first sight. Sometimes, you could be indifferent to your mate at first, but when time passes your feeling for him /her changes positively.
Say, you are a dropped dead gorgeous person, but why does the boy or girl that you want to grow a tree of love with not seem to share your interest? Instead, he/she admires somebody else? WHY?
There are many people who want to know the answers of the mentioned questions. Here is what the Buddha said about it.
“PUBBHE VA SANNIVASENA PUCCUPPANNAHITENA VA
EVANTAM CAYATE PEMAM UPALAM VA YADHOTHAGE.”
“LOVE IS ORIGINATED FROM TWO CAUSES. ONE IS RELATIONSHIP IN THE PAST, AND THE OTHER IS FRIENDLINESS IN THE PRESENT. JUST LIKE LOTUS COMES FROM WATER AND MIRE.”
Regarding the first cause of love, Buddhists believe that they have past lives and hereafter lives (rebirth). If you had a relationship with somebody in the past, it is likely that you could have a relationship with him or her again in this life time, or in the next lives. It would be easy for you and your past mate to fall in love again in this lifetime if you get to see each other once more, since you two have lived together in the past. For the second cause of love; there is also a chance for you and the person you admire to fall in love even though you and him/her have not met each other before, either in this lifetime or in past lives; this can happen if the two of you have things in common, share the same interests, and, most important of all, have feelings toward each other.
Considering the Buddha’s teaching, this is the root of love. It provides the clearest answer for all love obstacles.
Why does the person you do not adore keep coming around? And why does the person whom you want by your side keep going away from you?
Look at the Buddha’s teaching, and you will know why.
Phra Maha Rit